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Would you sweeten the deal for fellow passengers when flying with babies?

So as we get closer and closer to my due date – we’ve already begun making plans for life with baby, as a family of 5, (wow that feels and sounds weird!) We’ve been looking at tickets to go back to the US next summer to visit family and introduce our new baby girl. It’s hard to believe the boys haven’t been back to the US in over 2 yrs. That’s about half of “Peter Pan’s” life he’s now spent in London. In any case – I’ve been looking at getting 4 seats and then a bassinet seat for “Tinker Bell.” This would be her first flight and she’ll be around 6 months old.

I think the flight to the US is harder than the return, as the return is a night flight and heading out there it’s just a really really long day. I don’t know what kind of baby she’ll be yet, she could be mellow or this could be a real ordeal. I’m probably less anxious about flying with a baby this time around – but of course the fear still lingers. Not just – will she be ok, but, will she be ok enough not to really annoy all of the nearby passengers?

I’m not alone in my anxiety about this – I often think the anxiety parents feel as they fly with a baby, trying to keep it quiet etc, is worse than any annoyance felt by nearby passengers when it’s clear parents are doing their all to keep the baby quiet and resolve the situation if baby is fussy.

A few weeks back I was reading an article about some other parents who were flying for the first time with their new babies – and they created little goody bags to share with nearby passengers.  It actually seemed to positively influence those nearby passengers. Not just the sweets to brighten their day – but clearly showing that these parents were anxious to try and do the right thing, to not inconvenience other passengers, and be sincere in their apologies if they did inconvenience them.

These new parents of twin gave people on the plane candy (and offered earplugs too!). It’s a bit unclear from the articles I read whether they gave these to the whole plane or just the people seated near them.

parents of twin babies give candy to passengers on airplane


We’re twin baby boys on our first flight, and we’re only 14 weeks old! We’ll try to be on our best behavior, but we’d like to apologize in advance just in case we lose our cool, get scared, or our ears hurt. Our Mom and Dad (AKA our portable milk machine and our diaper changer) have ear plugs available if you need them. We are all sitting in 20E and 20F if you want to come by to get a pair.

We hope you have a great flight!”

The pre-apology goody bags came to public notice when a Reddit user on the flight who received one posted it on Reddit. ‘Brilliant and thoughtful parents handed these out to everyone on my flight,’ the appreciative traveler wrote on Reddit

The parents, Christina Diaz, 38, and Michael Rubinstein, 32, were flying with their 14-week-old twins Arrow and Jasper. The boys – didn’t even let out a murmur throughout the five-hour flight from San Francisco to Washington, D.C. making the pre-apology unnecessary. One fellow passenger reported, ”the parents were fantastic, and the kids were better than would be expected.”

What do you think of the pre-apology goody bags for fellow passengers? Good idea or bad? What would you do differently? 

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  1. I would think ‘They must be American.’ Seriously!

    But I know what you’re asking. Here’s how it would go. My British husband and I would be sitting somewhere on the plane, and we would spot the young family and inwardly groan but then put it out of our minds because there’s nothing to be done about it except offer up a silent prayer to the gods of babies that something keeps them entertained/happy/asleep. For ten hours.

    Then as we’re getting ourselves settled in for the flight, we notice that one of the parents is stopping to talk to different passengers and hand them things. I can feel my husband tense. I wonder if they’re handing out something about religion. I see people smile. Maybe it’s a new business technique, and they’re handing out samples of something. Not a bad idea. I start to mull it over in my mind. My husband stares forcefully in the other direction. They near us. Husband decides to feign sleep. I smile encouragingly, curious. They lean over and hand me the thing, and explain. I am speechless with the unexpected sympathy, and empathy, I feel. Then I just want to hug them and tell them it will be ok and that one day they won’t have to worry and that this Is Such a Very Clever Idea!
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